Parenting Tips: Developing Discipline by Setting Clear Expectation

Every now and then it can be very tough to communicate anything with your child. Defining clear expectations regarding what's acceptable conduct and what isn't imperative to successfully teaching your child right from wrong. If the parameters are muddled or the child learns that in one situation the rules hold true yet in another situation the same rule does not, it brings confusion and frustration on both sides.

Have a word with your child beforehand and line out the expectations and punishment of misbehaving. Make it clear that in no uncertain terms is there any room for negotiation at the time of the violation, and that should such manner occur you intend to be firm in your discipline. Rules regarding your child's safety, health or well-being should have no way for negotiation when being set or enforced. Other rules can be openly and honestly discussed with your child and an agreed upon action should be forged that both parents and child can agree upon. If it a must, make a formal deal between parent and child. Write it in black and white, in words your child can clearly understand. For younger children, you might want to develop a good behavior chart within the contract, and for each week that goes by without any violation being noted, a favorite or special activity might be earned. The connection between good deeds and special time with parent might be just the currency they understand.

All children need to understand that disciplining them is your way of teaching them what's acceptable behavior and what isn't. It may seem as though children against rules and regulations, but they truly know that such parameters are meant for their happiness, health, safety, and enable them to grow into a grown person capable of making wise decisions.

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